| Tuesday, March 13, 2007 |
| Touchy since you Flunked? |
Dear Bar Bitch,
Before I failed the bar, I was one of those people that others had the burden of disproving whether they were right or wrong on a given subject.
Now, I feel as if my credibility has been shot, and I can't tell if people have become more comfortable challenging me, now placing the burden on me, or I've simply become more defensive.
This seems to be a real problem (perhaps just in my head), as it was a significant part of my personality before (perhaps this was a bad thing?).
I don't think one realizes how much his/her ability to get things done rests on other's faith in them until something like this happens.
Certainly, I didn't have all the answers before, but having others think that you do definitely gets you a lot of traction. Any thoughts? I know this seems rather heady.
This letter was appealing to me for a few reasons....I think it's pretty reflective of the "crisis of faith" most of us go through once we've failed the bar....I also liked it because I thought the writer was pretty damned candid....introspection is difficult, as is honest self appraisal....since I think most of us go through something that feels very much like what this guy is facing (and admitting) I thought it may appeal to the masses as well....
The beauty of being able to say you're in law school.....and later saying that you have a law degree....and then having passed the bar is a whole hell of a lot of external validation.....and don't we all love that? And why not? People will assume you are a smart little fucker before you even open your mouth....just as they will assume you are a bottom dweller who wants to sue the entire free entire free world to line your pockets and figure you are morally bankrupt as well....that is what a lawyer does best right?
I don't need to convice people I'm intelligent, and neither should you, your intellect will likely shine through every time you open your mouth and also in knowing when to keep it shut....if they feel more comfortable challenging me because I haven't been admitted to the bar yet....well so be it....the fact that I haven't suceeded yet can hardly erase all the sucess I've enjoyed up to this point....it doesn't change the fact that I am still am bright, capable and a good debater....
Passing the bar will will mean nothing if we have no faith in our selves prior to that point......if you feel worthless without that validation of your ability, there is some serious trouble I suspect......I guess what I'm saying here is that none of has all the answers....and it's always ok to be honest enough to own up to that.....some of the most intelligent people I know are comfortable saying, I don't know the answer, but I can find out for you.... |
posted by Bar Bitch @ 1:45 PM   |
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